Forgiveness

 

Your ability to forgive those who have hurt you in the past is a crucial stepping stone to your spiritual and emotional growth. Throughout the course of our lives, we collect emotional baggage. This is unavoidable, and even though it can cause us a great deal of pain, it helps us to define who we are as people; the result is, we grow even more and learn valuable lessons along the way about ourselves and others

So there you have it – emotional baggage is an unavoidable part of all of our lives – but it's not actually this that is the real cause of unhappiness in your life. What's really important is how you choose to deal with that baggage, because what you do here will determine the success or failure of your future relationships. Now, there is another very important point I want to make:

People come into our lives to teach us lessons

It’s what you do with these lessons that determine how your future will be. Think of all the people you have encountered in your life. Isn't it funny to look back and think about the last time you saw a particular person; it may have been several years ago, and it's quite possible that you will never again see him/her in this lifetime! The reason? Because this person has served his or her purpose in your life. So now that you know this, think about this; what did this person teach you? Some relationships or encounters that we have with other people last only a few days, and some last a lifetime. But either way, each experience serves a specific purpose and is extremely relevant to your life!

Now, given that every experience we have is a lesson for us, think about the people who have hurt you in the past. Have you allowed yourself to forgive them? Or are you still holding into the emotional pain? Do you find yourself conjuring up scenes of "sweet revenge" in your mind, or worse still, acting out those scenes? Are you able to forgive and let go? If you are not, then who holds the power – you or them?

Don't let people who have hurt you in the past have any control over your future!

When you make a choice to forgive others, you are NOT lying down and becoming a doormat, nor are you admitting that person who hurt you is in the right. Forgiveness is about taking back control of your life and not allowing your negative emotions to rule you. And forgiveness is also about letting go of all those debilitating emotions that could be responsible for sabotaging your current relationships!

So ask yourself this question: Do you want to feel good? If you are still carrying feelings of resentment and anger towards someone who hurt you, then what are you getting out of it?

Hanging on to feelings of resentment, hatred, or anger, will ensure that these destructive feelings WILL spill over into your current life and stop you from enjoying positive, successful relationships with other people.

 
The fact is, your subconscious mind never ignores negative energy and emotions. It will remind you every day that you need to deal with them, and until you do, it will manifest your unresolved emotional pain through insomnia, chronic physical pain, and in extreme cases, life-threatening illness. So there it is; make a decision today to take back your life by practicing forgiveness. Your energy is extremely precious so don't allow yourself to give it away to those who don't deserve to have it! Move on with your life today, and you will experience miracles.

by Sonia Devine | Mindset

Coming Soon....

Chapter 1: How Story Shapes Our Lives

If someone you know says to you, “Would you like some of this salad I’m making?” … what kind of reaction would that provoke in you?

It depends on how you view the situation — what your narrative or story is of the situation:

·                                 If you see this as a generous act of kindness and this person is contributing towards your healthy life, then you might feel grateful.

·                                 If this question is seen as a part of a narrative of hundreds of times this person has criticized your weight or criticized you personally … then you might feel hurt and angry.

·                                 Or maybe you have a narrative that salad is terrible, and you might feel disgusted and insulted, or you might feel oppressed by diet culture.

These are three very different reactions to the same act. And they’re determined by your view of things, your narrative or story.

Every day, our lives are shaped by the story we have of ourselves, of others, and of the reality around us. 

Coming Soon...... Seeing Life Through 

 

The Power of the First Bond

While a soul tie will develop between any two people who are open to one another, the strength of those soul ties depends upon how deeply involved you become with another person. You can become soul tied to family, friends, co-workers and the leadership you are under. 

The Power of The First Bond can be a positive energy or a negative energy! 

We all want to be loved in return for our willingness to love others.
Emotional connections and physical ones are both important. However, physical is not just sex. It's a hug, massage, little kiss, reassurance of the emotional bond without having to take your clothes off.
Healthy sex life is important too if it can be had. If not then the rest of the relationship should be bound by the stronger bonds. When we connect with someone our minds, heart and spirit has a way interlocking with the other person’s thoughts, heart and mind on a spiritual level.

Not all soul ties are ungodly, however, and soul ties can be formed without sexual intercourse. Soul ties can be formed in relationships where two people are just close friends as was the case with David and Jonathan.

1 Samuel 18:1 says: Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

Food For Thought….

There is a communication of soul to soul and spirit to spirit.

The stronger the bonding or soul ties between friends the deeper and more lasting the relationship is. The emotional and mental strengths of one sustain the other in times of adversity. (Difficulties or misfortune) and allows them to rejoice with the other in the time of triumph.

Emotional Intimacy….

There are times when we seek an emotional bond - We crave closeness, warmth and comfort from another human being. We want and seek to have a special connection with another person on a deep emotional level. (Wolf, 2014)

Sexual Intimacy….

Wolf (2014), states that sexual intimacy involves a degree of vulnerability and trust - for some more than others, and in some scenarios more than others. (Have you ever considered why a "quickie" with your clothes on may be "hot" but less intimate than slowly undressing with your partner? Think about it. It's a matter of exposure and vulnerability.

Food For Thought….

Keeping in mind that intimacy isn't a "destination" but rather, an experience or set of feelings.

Indeed sexual relationships form extremely strong soul ties, even as strong as blood relationships (your mother, brothers, father and then grandparents), followed by the friendship to people who are not your relatives. If you have children, the soul ties to them will probably be the strongest of all.

Food For Thought….
Sex creates a “soul-tie” between two people forming the most intimate of all human relationships.

Maybe soul ties are one of the reasons why in the West most families are dysfunctional and there are so many divorces. The husband feels that the wife does not give her entire love to him, and the wife feels in the same way about her husband (Rich, 2011). 

They are together but they seem distant, unavailable to each other. They don’t understand each other fully and they don’t know why this is so. Well this happens because both of their souls are tied to other peoples’, so they can’t be fully together (Rich, 2011).

The bottom line is -The less soul ties you have, the freer and happier you feel, so make sure that if you ever do have them, they are made with the people who are truly special.

References:

Wolf, D. A. (2014, August 20). Sexual vs. Emotional Intimacy: Do You Know The Difference? Retrieved from divorcedmoms.com/articles/sexual-vs-emotional-intimacy-do-you-know-the-difference

Rich, S. (2011, November 11). Soul Ties: What You Should Know About Them. Retrieved from http://simonarich.com/soul-ties

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